In intimacy coach Sacha Fossa
’s experience, the greatest threat and issue to intimacy is the
severe lack of any proper sex and relationship education. Parents, society and
culture simply do not offer this. Finding an intimacy coach that can guide and
provide more of each can be crucial to creating and having the sex and love one
really wants. We asked her to tell us more about intimacy and how she assists
makes the heart grow fonder, then how do couples manage the pandemic- forced, constant
togetherness (working from home, no business travel, etc.)?
Those who are in intimate
relationships and having to navigate spending more homebound time together,
pandemic-forced or not, will generally benefit from communicating more fully
their individual needs and desires for this experience. Every individual,
relationship and circumstance is so unique that it is best to find out what you
and what your partner would most like solo and together. Knowing each other’s
love languages, as well as Erotic Blueprints (aka the Intimacy/Sex Languages),
provides highly valuable information as to how to not just manage, but also
create, greater ease and intimate expansion, in and out of the bedroom, during
such times and ongoing.
What gets in
the way of true intimacy?
There are so many issues and factors
that block true intimacy. Two main reasons are, first, not being intimate with
oneself, meaning that an individual does not truly like themselves nor their
body, and therefore they really can’t be intimate with others when it is not
within their being. Second, not prioritizing intimacy. Intimacy dies when not
prioritized. There are so many intimate-less relationships where clients expect
intimacy to just appear without effort. Intimacy must be prioritized, scheduled
and cultivated, ongoing, for it to not only survive but thrive.
How can an
intimacy coach help partners reconnect?
A reputable intimacy coach can help
individuals and their partners to recognize, release and shift conscious and
subconscious barriers to intimacy in their bodies, relationships and lives.
They can assist in helping their clients reconnect and connect in new ways with
one another through coaching, practices and techniques to guide them
individually and together. Intimacy coaches’ training and approaches vary
greatly, and finding the best fit is important.
Can you give
one or two samples of homework assignments that you give couples?
I custom-design all my home play
assignments. Common examples would be specific solo self-pleasure practices
that are educational as well as sexually healing and awakening. They are for
expanding and cultivating sexual energy and vitality. I often provide home play
practices for couples in which they create erotic play in new and different
ways that feeds arousal and connection, to bring more expansion into their sex
Sacha Fossa, MA, provides in-person
and/or virtual custom-designed sex, intimacy, relationship and wellness coaching, education and healing arts
programs at Sacred Temple Arts. Private, customized sessions are designed to
quickly get to, address and relieve the source of the challenges, as well as assist with the design and implementation of an intimacy plan that fits
for the individual(s). For more information, visit SacredTempleArts.com and sign up for a complimentary consultation.