December unites families in ways few other times can, creating opportunities for children to explore their origins. Heritage is not just something to preserve under glass; it is alive, evolving and ready for kids to add their own chapter. This holiday season invites daughters and sons not only to observe family traditions, but to become joyful stewards of them. Through storytelling, cooking, crafting or creating TikTok-style recipe reels, children can connect with their roots in meaningful, playful and personal ways.

Lessons From Former Generations

Research from Emory University’s Family Narratives Lab, published in Psychotherapy in 2008, reveals that children that are familiar with their family history have better self-esteem, higher social competence, quality friendships, reduced anxiety and stress, and fewer behavioral problems. The study also highlights that families discussing challenging events in emotionally open ways help children cope better during difficult times.

“It is extremely grounding for children to feel connected to their past and family history and elders,” explains Denise Olivera Schira, a wellness educator and retired assistant superintendent for the New York City Department of Education. “It gives them a sense of stability in the world and connection to something much bigger than themselves. It validates their identity and culture, provides context and relevance in their lives, and offers a purposeful and meaningful understanding of who they are and from where they come.”

Fun Ways To Promote Family Traditions

“Making family and cultural norms and discussions a part of everyday life experiences and interactions is an especially meaningful manner in which to engage children and elders seamlessly,” Schira explains, adding that opportunities for connection and sharing abound through storytelling, photos, craft projects, games and other engaging exchanges. Mealtime, especially during holidays, is Schira’s favorite time for worthwhile conversation, when elders share stories with humor while children listen intently and ask questions. These gatherings create spaces where family history flows organically, without pressure or formality.

Keep It Simple

Heike recalls her grandmother’s simple tradition of culturing milk on the windowsill in glass cups. “Make memories with simple things,” she advises. Her childhood included painting real eggs for Easter (blown empty to save the contents for scrambled eggs), picking berries straight from bushes, pressing autumn leaves for art projects and singing songs together on lantern walks after sunset.

Creating the Family Tapestry

Everyday moments can become memory-making traditions through intention and presence. Schira and Heike offer some suggestions to kickstart the family’s exploration of their heritage and create new traditions and memories:

•  Initiate conversations at family mealtimes.
• Encourage elders to share stories with humor and relevant comparisons to present times.
• Create space for children to ask questions that spark their interest.
• Create a decorative plate adorned with natural finds from walks.
• Learn seasonal songs together. 

To involve younger children in the conversation, prompt elder family members with simple questions such as: 

• What was your favorite game to play when you were my age?
• What food did you love eating on holidays?
• Can you teach me a song or poem you learned as a kid?
• What’s something funny that happened during the holidays when you were a kid?
• If you could save only one recipe from your family, what would it be? 

Some children love crafting, while others prefer making videos or digital slide shows. Some are naturally chatty; others need quieter ways to participate. “Depending on a child’s age, vary activities and include them as much as possible in the decision-making process,” Heike advises. The goal is to invite kids to participate on their terms, making heritage education a celebration of joy and identity rather than obligation.

As families gather around holiday tables with familiar dishes and new experiments alike, remember that heritage isn’t a history lesson; it is a living conversation between past and present. Every question, every story and every recipe becomes a thread in the family’s tapestry. Let the children see that they do not just inherit traditions; they also have the power to shape them.

Christina Connors is a writer, keynote singer and head of music and SEL integration for the Kind Mind Education Program. Learn more at ChristinaConnors.com.

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